Get rid of the word SHOULD.
Using statements like I should meditate…. solicit guilt, rebelliousness and maybe even shame…Thoughts like “Dammit why didn’t I, I was supposed to!!” soon follow. These shame and fear based thought patterns do not take you to a powerful place, but often undermine motivation and positive intentions/thinking.
Find another word that elicits better responses:
Wish – won’t motivate most people
I would like to – nope won’t bring urgency
I need to – not quite there to bring about action
I want to – getting closer to a commitment
I have to – to authoritarian for most (defensiveness and rebellion follow)
I must – sounds too desperate
I am going to – will work for some.. gives me a way out…
I will – a personal agreement is made…much closer to getting me to do it (I can visualize it and imagine myself doing…
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